Friday, January 27, 2006

Is It Something in the Water?

First and foremost, this post is not directed at anyone. There are no pointed remarks, I'm not trying to call anyone out and I'm not trying to blog what I won't say to your face. I don't want to hear any "what's that supposed to mean?" later on. This is merely my observation.

As we rapidly approach this holiday made up by greeting card and chocolate companies, I'm noticing something in my friends. Everyone is hooking up. I'm not saying that it's because of Valentine's Day and the race to find someone to spend the day with. The timing is just odd.

It's been a natural ebb and flow with my friends. One minute we all find ourselves single and throwing popcorn at the stupid chick flick we decided to torture ourselves with. The next everyone is acting all mushy and flirty and talking about some guy like he's the best thing since sliced bread. (Which, in my opinion, is a pretty hard act to follow. :-) ) And then there's me. Holding down the "No Boys Allowed" club until my girls return to their senses and come back. ;-)

No, I'm happy for my friends. Most of them are dating (or have not-boyfriends or un-boyfriends or fiances) men who seem to be wonderful guys. And I hope that they spoil you all rotten and talk as much mush as you want and treat you like the queens that you are.

Just please wait until I leave the room. ;-)

Something I've noticed in myself is my tendancy to get cynical and try to distance myself from people when they start dating. I think it's a "they're going to be too wrapped up in each other so I'm bailing now" mentality. That and the googly eyes get irritating after awile. :-)

Crystal was talking in her blog about how she doesn't like a whole lot of "mush" in her relationships. Here's a shock: she and I seem to be of the same mind on this. Buying flowers and candy and whispering sweet nothings is good and all. But real romance is in the everyday stuff. The sacrifices you make for one another. As Crystal said, we want a prince who's face you can see and who's armor isn't perfectly shiny and who's horse isn't spotless white. A real guy who makes real mistakes and tries in real ways to show you that he loves you. No Prince Charming. (Because I don't believe that guy even exists. Prince Charming doesn't sweep me off my feet. He makes me suspicious of what he's hiding and what he wants. I saw 'Shrek 2'. ;-) )

So yeah, I told Sheryl when I started blogging that I didn't really know where I was going with this. If it seems a bit disjointed, that's why. This is me trying to organize my thoughts. Maybe I'll blog more later when I'm not so tired.

12 comments:

Maurice Broaddus said...

yeah, i'm sorry for you and crystal: my wife took the last prince charming off the market.

Crystal said...

Riiiiight.

Anyway, I'm all about the "charm is deceitful and beauty is fleeting". So what about prince charming and sleeping beauty, eh? ;)

Yeah. I dig real people. Real people are cool. It annoys me when folk get all wrapped up in each other and forget that there are other folk on the planet. That's kinda why I quit my Bible study group. They all hooked up. Now I'm "hooked up". Funny, how I still have no desire to go back to that group.

Also funny that I'm spending my Valentine's weekend with all my single gals. ;) Good Lord, I'm a girlfriend in denial.

~Crystal

Lauren said...

Yay for denial! :-)

And Maurice, I don't think Crystal and I are feeling too sorry for ourselves here. Sally's in the trinity of saints for a reason. ;-)

BurnDark said...

I really don't like it when people get together and disappear. In fact, I have asked my friends to prevent me from doing just that in the event that I get into a relationship

Crystal said...

So do we have permission to smack you upside the head if you get into a stupid relationship? 'Cause my friends have that. ;)

Someday Ian, we'll find you a girl who treats you nice. You deserve it.

~Crystal

ro said...

it's funny you all feel this way about attached friends because i'm at the opposite end of the spectrum. you know what, before i get carried away, i'll just blog about this.

Sheryl said...

I think Ro has a good point. I've seen both sides of this at different times. It can be annoying when friends start dating and they become all mushy and lovey-dovey and only seem to want to spend time with each other. And I've had so any friends do that, that I (wrongly) tend to expect any new couple to be that way and tend to shy away from them once they hook up. But not all couples are like that. I, for one, know that I'm like Ian and don't want to be that way. So instead of shying away from me if I'm a part of a couple, if I start acting like that - talk to me about it. Because if I'm making you uncomfortable or you feel like I'm different if I'm dating, I wanna know.

Maurice Broaddus said...

i bet this is the most comments you've seen in a while? ;-)

anyway, my wife and i got it from both sides: our single friends pulled away from us, though we fought and scraped to assure them that just because we were married didn't mean that we were going to fall off the face of the earth (in fact, it made it more convenient since it meant one party household instead of having to drive back and forth between us); our married friends thought/think our marriage is in trouble because we never acted "couplely" (forgetting that we minister mostly to singles ... who don't want to see people drooling all over each other).

BurnDark said...

"So do we have permission to smack you upside the head if you get into a stupid relationship? 'Cause my friends have that. ;)"

Yes, you have permission

"Someday Ian, we'll find you a girl who treats you nice. You deserve it."

A girl who treats me nice? I don't even need that. I have only one question for any potential date: "Are you legal?"

Anonymous said...

Oh man.... lol!

patty said...

i hate those stupid faerie tale love stories. sleeping beauty and snow white sound like 13th century date rape - how on earth is that romantic?

plus prince charming - blond with blue eyes? - sounds a lot like an Aryan Nazi.

and i like jews.

=) loff.

Ron said...

patty, your wit never ceases to amuse me ;-)

just ask doug about his experience when I had an fiance', and disappeared for a full year. I didn't even realize that I did that, until I pissed off doug one day, and brought it up when he went off on me.